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  1. Do this. eta - you are much nicer than me, I would have just dumped them at the uniform shop of the school.
    34 points
  2. I feel sad for William as well. His mum died young, his dad has cancer, his brother's a dick, and now his wife has cancer too, and they have 3 young kids. It's a lot for one person to deal with, let alone someone that also has the enormous pressure of being the future King.
    33 points
  3. ‘They’ want old people to have cash reserves so they can inject them into aged care costs… https://www.abc.net.au/news/2024-03-12/aged-care-fees-could-be-changing-explainer/103576828 I am getting cynical in my old age but the amount of corporate profit is obscene. Aged care should not be listed on the stock exchange. Nor should child care, job seeker or ndis providers. I would far rather a bit of government admin bloat than profit making from basic societal needs.
    33 points
  4. It's been a while since I've posted here, haven't even lurked for a while as life has been chaotic. Please don't read on if violence is a trigger, I won't go into details but I know this can be a sensitive subject. So DS is a few months away from being 18. We've been battling the last two years & the level of aggression has increased as he's gotten older. He's autistic, has ADHD & a moderate ID. There's a lot going on & has been difficult for him navigating the teenage years. He is prone to being set off so easily & it's generally with myself & his Dad. Seems to mask fairly well at school & when he's with different groups. Without going into too much detail, the verbal abuse & threats are intense and when he gets enraged that's when it's unsafe. We've had to call the police last weekend when out because he lost control & I ended up with some superficial cuts when he attacked my face while driving & then starting throwing kicks & punches towards his Dad. He ran off once my husband called the police. Which was also dangerous for him as he has no road sense & was headed for a main road. This is what we're currently doing, but if anyone else has suggestions, I'm open to anyone else's experiences with violent situations. I didn't press charges, he had de-escalated by the time police arrived. We hadn't called them to press charges but we didn't feel we would be able to manage him if he stayed in the state he was in. Have contacted his psychiatrist to discuss meds, we've been trialling meds for a couple of years & so far not finding something that helps to keep him calmer but we're happy to try anything at this point. Have contacted NDIS to request an early review, but have to gather reports/evidence in the interim. His OT/Psych are going to contact his LAC to request immediate PBS & a support co-ordinator due to the safety risk he poses to us and also to himself. I know I can contact Carer Gateway for emergency respite, but it doesn't feel ok to send someone who could be potentially violent into the care of someone else, but maybe we will. It is at the point where we may not be able to have him live at home, which breaks me, but I don't know what else we can do. Our mental health is taking such a hit & there's so much guilt associated with feeling like we've failed him so much.
    32 points
  5. I googled it (yes I am THAT person). It is helpful for vision impaired people and people with dementia. https://mobilityshopdirect.com.au/products/coloured-toilet-seat-for-dementia
    31 points
  6. I really don't quite get the general public's "relationship" with the royals, particularly with the female royals. It's like so many people regress to being very young children who feel insecure whenever mum is out of sight. I feel like all I've been hearing for weeks is half of England screaming "MUMMY!!!" because the mum in question needed to have a wee in peace. I really hope The Firm don't expect anything much further from her in terms of dealing with the public. Having recently done adjuvant chemo- the cognitive impairment it gives you is really something else. I couldn't write coherent sentences let alone speak them, I couldn't read because I had no short term memory. Even at my 3 month post treatment checkup I lost the car in the hospital carpark because I couldn't remember where I'd parked it. It basically gives you a preview on what life will be like if you get dementia. Everything is confusing and it takes everything you've got to fake like you know what's going on so you don't freak out the people who care about you. I imagine when "the people who care about you" expands into being a good half of a nation it would be a nightmare.
    29 points
  7. I would argue they weren’t hiding. The public was told Kate was recovering from surgery. She was. And getting appropriate treatment. There was no lie or coverup. We just weren’t given specifics.
    28 points
  8. I’m a runner, love the trails. I’ve had issues in broad daylight mid morning with many cars around along a road (was assaulted by a man). And used to run with a gf at 4:30am every day. Felt safe given there was two of us. Well we had the worst scare (haunts us to this day) with a very very scary man (thankfully another man came to our rescue). We never ran again at 4:30am. Ever again. Can take every safety precaution and these psychos just don’t gaf. I now never run at the same time or have the same route. I did a run in Samantha’s honour to finish the 7km she didn’t get to do. May she rest in peace.
    28 points
  9. I refuse to discuss this in a public forum because the vocal groups on BOTH sides are driven by bad faith actors. Meanwhile women are still dying at the hands of men who consider themselves real men. And gay men and transgender people are dying at the hands of real men and to suicide. Women and transgender people are not the problem and I refuse to make them such.
    28 points
  10. White is the dominant position. So yes, it would be worse if you substituted ‘black’.
    27 points
  11. I got married yesterday! The weather was terrible, and it was humid and hot, but it was still a great night.
    27 points
  12. DH was made redundant in July last year. He’s still trying to get a job. We’re still waiting for his JobSeeker and my Disability Support Pension applications to be processed. We got a big electricity bill last month and I rang the retailer for a payment plan. When I explained our financial circumstances they switched me to a cheaper plan, backdated it to reduce the bill, gave me a 24 months payment plan of monthly instalments, and started an application for me with the Qld Govt for emergency assistance. I finished it off and today was notified that the Qld Govt has agreed to help us under their Home Energy Emergency Assistance Scheme and will cover our bill that was due last month. That’s a big relief. They will pay it to the electricity retailer to put our account in credit. Over $600. I had no idea that sort of assistance was available. We both have CPAPs so now they’re registered with them as life saving equipment which allowed some sort of extra discount or particular plan to be applied. That needed a signature and endorsement from our GP to say that we medically need them. If anyone is having trouble paying their electricity bill please call your energy retailer. They might be able to help like they did for me. The operator I got was great and very helpful. She knew her stuff and happily did as much as she could to help me.
    25 points
  13. I got upset when I heard the news. Annoyed that all these people had been making some horrible remarks and crazy stories over the past few weeks when what we were really dealing with was a family going through a really difficult private time. And I'm no kate fan or royalist! :Lol: As I said upthread. She's entitled to take time off for illness (or any reason) and privacy.
    25 points
  14. The "big thing" of Easter for me is my mum making figolli. She's teaching DD (apparently I'm unteachable). I look forward to figolli way more than the chocolate. So that's usually the thing to do on Saturday, drop DD off there for her annual lesson. For those unfamiliar, they are Maltese Easter biscuits filled with almond paste, and they are joyful.
    25 points
  15. Doesn’t Catherine usually take the photos and have control over their releases? I can just imagine her at home “FFS William, I have one month off for illness and you let this dodgy photo be published? I’ve handled allllll the other family photos, for years, without issue. You had one job!”
    25 points
  16. Yup. Somedays, the kids not so much.
    25 points
  17. Just had a lovely lady come and clean out all the good stuff. $80 for shorts & formal caps (not the blazers). Throwing the shirts away to the fabric recyclers - as the collars are black. If I can sell the blazers tomorrow that will be it. Done.
    24 points
  18. Aged people can not get mortgages. That article is dodgy, these would not be first homes unless they are being bought by family groups which does happen in many areas. It took decades to pay off our mortgage so no, we don't have one. We paid cash for our house because we sold our last one and needed somewhere to live. We are not rich, we do not have investment properties. I wish people would leave us the fuck alone.
    24 points
  19. A formal diagnosis means access to medication. Sometimes all the extra help cannot do anything without medication ( I paid so much money in speech therapy but as soon as DS started meds, bam, instant improvement). it doesn't change who your child is but helps them be the best they can be.
    24 points
  20. No, you know what? I'm in a fecking mood, so I'll bite even though I normally wouldn't touch this with a barge pole. I *hope* the media haven't picked this up because they have finally realised that every time nice, privileged, white cis people argue about petty shit like this, people like me go to work feeling sick to the stomach with dread because I'm just praying that these chronically online teens who are searching searching for validation and acceptance somewhere, anywhere, havent seen it. And I'm praying that this time they haven't cut themselves to ribbons again, that it's in a place that won't scar, because even when they hold no hope that they will ever feel human again, feel belonging again, I have to hold that hope for them. For every Caitlyn Jenner there are 100 kids struggling with gender identity. They're not doing it for shits and giggles, or because it's trendy. They are hurting. And these stupid fights do nothing except send the message 'you are not wanted here. You are not male. You are not female. You are some subhuman third option that needs their own separate space away from the rest of us nice people.' Ugh. I'm done
    24 points
  21. I wanted to shop in peace. So l got my kids to lock themselves in there right after l gave them a blue magic marker and told them not to come out until it was all coloured in. Sorry
    23 points
  22. Do we really need to explain this to anyone? That being white is automatically a privilege. Much like being male is. She wasn't in her workplace. The police officer was in his and hearing that kind of language is part of his job. He isn't a nurse. And we don't even know (yet) what the police did or said to lead to her basically telling him he was a fucking knob. But I can imagine plenty of fucked up things. Bringing charges was completely out of line.
    23 points
  23. Apparently if your cat or dog can fit in a small carrier you can take it with you on a plane. Korean air lets you. I don’t think you even need to buy them a seat, so it’s cheaper than taking a child. https://www.koreanair.com/at/en/airport/assistance/travel-with-pet/checklist personally I think pet-rights have gone way too far. All animals need to be in the cargo hold of a plane in the animal area. it’s not fair to subject people that are trapped on a plane to animal smells and noises and toileting etc. Pets also shouldn’t be in shops, and they shouldn’t be in restaurants. And I’ll barely tolerate them in outside seating at a pub. Service dogs are fine, and they probably prefer to be away from other people’s poorly trained animals too. Less chance of random attacks or catching diseases etc. pets are not people. And not all people like pets.
    23 points
  24. Of course it was them at the farm shop. It looked exactly like them. Having cancer doesn’t mean you’re bedridden all the time. She is between surgeries and chemo and was probably taking advantage of a short stint of feeling good.
    22 points
  25. Take my $3k and transfer the rest back. If they have $5k to transfer they have the money owed!
    22 points
  26. DD goes to a private secondary school. DS and DD both went to public primary, DS is still there. The public primary was the best option for their additional needs, we also toured a private school, and the public school they were zoned for. Lucky for us, the out of zone public was happy to enrol them. Not sure yet where DS will go to secondary school, it will depend on what will best work with his additional needs. DH and I went to public schools. Dh’s was excellent, mine was pretty ordinary. Is this a competition? Why is it only a perception that a private school might actually better cater to learning needs? But if I say the public primary school catered for them better than the private, which is also true for me, that’s acceptable? Morally superior? The reality is that public schools are chronically underfunded, teachers are underpaid, and it’s getting worse and not better. I joined a political party for this reason, and I campaign hard. But I’m not about to make my kids the example of my ideology. All kids deserve to have their needs met. If you believe in public education but you’re not politically active, please consider if you can help out. It needs a collective effort to stop any funding going to overfunded high fee private schools. And to direct it all, and then some, to public schools and teachers. Public schools should be palaces.
    22 points
  27. Why is it always the job of girls to civilise boys?
    22 points
  28. I do not get the drama about the 'doctored' photo. Not one single posed shot of them exists on the internet without some form of digital cleaning up. Not one single photo of MOST people exists on social media without some form of altering. It's utterly ridiculous.
    21 points
  29. Sorry, this is off topic from the William & Kate farm walk chat - but I did find this funny
    21 points
  30. As someone whose life has been severely impacted by long COVID for nearly two years, seeing headlines saying that the illness doesn’t exist is extremely disheartening, and has affected me a lot today. I have had trouble recovering from viruses in the past (dengue fever took me nearly a year to recover from) so understand that this is a broader thing, but I have never been as ill as this has made me. I know that many people get their news from reading the headlines and have no doubt that the next time I try to tell someone that I have long COVID I will be told that they heard that’s not a thing anymore. So disappointing
    21 points
  31. I think the article is of interest economically though. What it’s saying is that cash sales of houses has surged relative to mortgaged houses. They had expected a significant housing market slow down with the interest rate rises but this has not happened because the number of cash sales has increased due to the demographics of an aging population. This is something that is noteworthy because it begs the question of whether interest rate increases alone as a means of reducing inflation can be justified because it disproportionately affects younger mortgage payers (and renters if landlords have mortgages) even more than in the past.. In fact, people who have paid off their mortgages have even more cash to spend now because they are getting a better interest rate income on their savings and investments and that can add to inflationary pressure.
    21 points
  32. As of settlement at about 2pm a very expensive set of keys
    21 points
  33. I am not touching this one with a barge pole because I am terrified if I say that women and girls deserve to have safe spaces - then I am an evil person who hates trans people / trans women which simply isn't true. So I say nothing.
    21 points
  34. Know where the tap is to turn off the mains water to the house. We showed the kids as part of them helping us with general house maintenance. One day when they were getting ready for school, the hose under the kitchen sink gave way. They ran and turned off the mains before trying to find me. Saved a lot of damage!
    20 points
  35. Kate is not missing, she is doing what she said she would do and be away until Easter. Why are people surprised they haven't seen her ? Idiots.
    20 points
  36. My person favourite tweets from the above thread.
    20 points
  37. Thats ridiculous. We aren't entitled to that level of invasion, and neither is my employer. Medical issues are handled discretely at my workplace. I've thankfully never been in the position of needing to take 6 months off but "abdominal surgery" and medical certificates on recovery requirements would be enough.
    20 points
  38. He was, I probably can not repeat what he said about him
    20 points
  39. What bothers me about this is just how quickly people jump the gun and turn on people who have just never really shown themselves to be other than pretty inspiring. We humans are not perfect, I know I have not been covered in glory and yes I have vomited in a cab in my younger days , well on the door as I opened the window. I am so glad I wasn't famous, there were no cameras and the taxi driver forgiving instead of wanting to sue me. This is exactly what is pissing me off in the world right now........everything seems to be a 'gotcha' moment rather than just being 'normal' which is not being perfect.
    20 points
  40. OT, But what i wouldn't do to be a white bastard and enjoy the privileges that come with that. Beats being a brown (1/2 Indian woman - much like Sam) any day I would imagine.
    20 points
  41. This comment might get me flamed - but I’m finding the responses in this thread very interesting when compared to if a male sports person had done this. I feel people are going very easy on her and giving the benefit of the doubt - maybe she didn’t know, maybe her lawyer told her it would be dropped, maybe she was targeted etc. That said - obviously none of us know what’s happened. It could be very innocent or she could have behaved atrociously.
    20 points
  42. Male allies…aka smug executives working 12 hour days while their wife carries the thought load…but it’s okay ladies, they’re feminists too lol
    20 points
  43. I am sorry you are in this situation. It's really hard and you are not a failure. Can you switch your thinking from " we cannot cope with him at home" to " he's 18, so what does his future as an adult look like?". If you do have him move into residental care, I would be selling it as " you are finishing/ finished school, and now 18, so it's time to move to becoming the adult you". I have 3 friends with intellectual disabilities ( not autism) and although they loved being at home with their parents, they also got to a point of wanting to be as independent as circumstances allowed and living away from home. You are not abandoning him. You will still be in his life and involving him in your family, but also, he's moving out of home, as any young person would do, to try more independence. You sound like you are starting on the right track with getting more support. But yeah, the guilt must be a kicker.
    20 points
  44. So the chat went really well and I was happy with my choice of outfit. Nothing will come of it for a little while, there's a bit of a restructure happening before the job/s can be advertised, but was a really positive discussion. And she talked about wanting to change the culture to be more accepting of.part time.work at senior levels completely unprompted (she knows I'm part time and that today was my day off).
    20 points
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