katpaws Posted May 5, 2021 Share Posted May 5, 2021 First episode of SBS;s documentary "See what you made me do"https://www.sbs.com.au/ondemand/program/see-what-you-made-me-doI don't actually have the words to respond. It cuts to much to the core of my experiences,Maybe this will educate people? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mumrocks Posted May 6, 2021 Share Posted May 6, 2021 Watching made me so anxious but I felt I owed it to victims to sit with that and learn what’s happening in the world outside of my safe bubble Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley225 Posted May 6, 2021 Share Posted May 6, 2021 I bought the book a few weeks ago but had to take a break from reading it as it was so depressing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ABabyPlease Posted May 6, 2021 Share Posted May 6, 2021 I am so devastated to see these accounts of violence and the total imbalance of power. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Temperance Posted May 6, 2021 Share Posted May 6, 2021 This is on my must watch list - thank you for the reminder! I've read this interesting article on The Conversation about it and of course made the mistake of reading the comments section on FB. Should have known better...https://www.google.com/amp/s/theconversation.com/amp/see-what-you-made-me-do-will-change-the-way-we-think-about-domestic-violence-heres-what-needs-to-happen-now-160085 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Purpleblaze Posted May 6, 2021 Share Posted May 6, 2021 I have read the book and watched last night, heartbreaking. The breaks and leeway we (societal we) give to perpetrators is absolutely un-fucking-believable - I really do wish women ran the world. I was also just reading on the Age website about the new Apple Airtag - talk about a stalkers delight! I can't believe Apple have actually manufactured this product. They might as well have called it Airstalk. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katpaws Posted May 7, 2021 Author Share Posted May 7, 2021 People might be interested in this story of police handling cases of DV in Qld:‘A very broken system’: why are Queensland police still getting domestic violence cases so wrong?https://amp.theguardian.com/australia-news/2021/may/08/a-very-broken-system-why-are-queensland-police-still-getting-domestic-violence-cases-so-wrong?CMP=Share_iOSApp_Other&__twitter_impression=true&s=09&fbclid=IwAR0g4yyiI5OYVM1DEJ-UjB8nh7mlaipwk0FmJMX7r9cn1n322FESQknuaJw Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MintyBiscuit Posted May 7, 2021 Share Posted May 7, 2021 This is on my list but I need to be in a good mental health space to watch it, I grew up in a violent household so a lot of these things can be hard to watch/read. I’ve read a lot of Jess Hill’s work over recent years and she does such an excellent job in this area Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LunaFreya Posted May 8, 2021 Share Posted May 8, 2021 I watched this last night and I found it hard at first as there were flashbacks to my own abuse. But in the end I’m glad I watched it as it affirmed what happened to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne Bonny Posted May 8, 2021 Share Posted May 8, 2021 This is on my list but I need to be in a good mental health space to watch it, I grew up in a violent household so a lot of these things can be hard to watch/read. I’ve read a lot of Jess Hill’s work over recent years and she does such an excellent job in this area Same. It's probably more important for those who haven't had a front row seat to the dynamics and tactics see it. Survivors already have an unavoidable front row seat to watching those tactics playing out in leadership and our institutions in a way that's all too familiar, while the body count grows. Then all the guilt that comes with being still standing and the weight of responsibility you feel to call it out when you see it. At least that's an emotional bind that sometimes keeps me engaging with stuff I really ought to limit my exposure to. I'm swinging wildly between wanting to run around yelling fire! and wanting to go sit near the ocean and stare at it for the rest of my life.We don't need permission to stand down when we need to. :purple_heart: Now to convince myself of this.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Evenstar Posted May 21, 2021 Share Posted May 21, 2021 Hey Tiara, there's a thread about this show from a couple of weeks ago if you'd like to join in therehttps://www.everybump.com.au/forums/viewtopic.php?f=11&t=6044 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tiara Posted May 21, 2021 Share Posted May 21, 2021 Thanks [mention]Evenstar[/mention] when I used the EB search it didn’t come up for some reason Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
verucasalt Posted May 21, 2021 Share Posted May 21, 2021 (edited) I have only viewed episode 1, but have worked in a domestic violence refuge before.I think educating girls and boys from a very early age about respectful relationships will be a solid foundation to reduce the incidence of this type of behaviour in the future. This includes consent education of course.There also has to be smarter ways of speaking to people in the community about their relationships. I remember having very critical discussions with women at community fairs. I know that hairdressers are getting training in domestic abuse in some states, so they are able to give information to clients who open up to them. We need to do a lot more as a community, and quickly. We also need major law reform. We need feminist boys and men. Edited May 21, 2021 by verucasalt Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tiara Posted May 21, 2021 Share Posted May 21, 2021 I’ve just finished watching all three episodes. It has floored me, every episode I have been in tears for different reasons. The heart wrenching stories, the sobering facts. She mentioned in one episode that there are 2 million women affected by DV. I think the stats are grossly underreported. Jess accurately states that this is a national crisis, it’s an epidemic in Australia. We hear stories about women and children killed horrifically by their partner or ex partner and there is a discussion, sometimes some platitudes are expressed in government and then it’s forgotten again until another incident happens. Things have to change. Our legal system is fundamentally flawed when dealing with this issue. Last week’s episode mentioned that in 1995, there was an amendment to the Family Law act that essentially proactively ensures children maintain a relationship with both parents. That’s great for general breakups but in the case of DV which is a complex issue, it forces children to maintain a relationship with their father even if he has abused them also. How is this ok?The last episode delved into how other countries are dealing with DV. In the UK, they have criminalised coercive control. In Argentina they have created a specialised police force that only deals with DV. These both merit looking into.I’m still processing what I’ve watched, it’s very confronting viewing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tiara Posted May 21, 2021 Share Posted May 21, 2021 [mention]Seayork2002[/mention] can we delete this post and merge Verucasalt’s comments with the other thread that Evenstar mentioned? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darryl Posted May 21, 2021 Share Posted May 21, 2021 The posts have been moved into the other topic Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ozgirl Posted September 5, 2021 Share Posted September 5, 2021 Hi Everyone, I noticed two threads on this so I have merged them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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