ceeshell Posted December 26, 2020 Share Posted December 26, 2020 Hi all, Wondering if anyone has experience in their daughter getting their period before their older sister?My middle child is 10 and I think might be getting her period (very dark brown discharge). She has the definite start of boobs and pubic hair but not much. Her older sister is 13 and is much more developed in both areas but no sign of period. I’m an only child and was 11 when I got mine. Should I worry about my oldest or just leave it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Claus Posted December 26, 2020 Share Posted December 26, 2020 If I was going to worry it would be about the youngest. 10 is quite early. Might be worth seeing a doctor just to check Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seayork2002 Posted December 26, 2020 Share Posted December 26, 2020 I think I was 13 and my sister 9 (from memory) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greenbean Posted December 26, 2020 Share Posted December 26, 2020 It's possible. I was 12 but have friends who were 10.My mum went through menopause at least 5 years earlier than her oldest sister so it can work in that direction too ... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chocolate Addict Posted December 26, 2020 Share Posted December 26, 2020 Yep, my sister is 5 years older than me but I got breasts before her, and probably periods but we never discussed that stuff. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blizzy Posted December 26, 2020 Share Posted December 26, 2020 I was 9 with my first period. I don’t think you should be worried, just be open and discuss so they know it’s just normal Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phillipa Crawford Posted December 26, 2020 Share Posted December 26, 2020 There is six years between my girls.DD1 was nearly 17 and DD2 was 14.Had they been the regular 2 years apart same thing would have happened to us.I know 10 year olds get periods but I prefer to be in the position of your older daughter Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClaudiaCosette Posted December 26, 2020 Share Posted December 26, 2020 I wouldn't be too concerned. I'm the oldest in my family and got my period at 10 (same as my mum had) and I think both my sisters were older when theirs started (I never actually knew). Is your older DD worried about hers not starting yet? I'd probably just not make a big deal out of it and let them know that everyone is different. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie28 Posted December 26, 2020 Share Posted December 26, 2020 Hi all, Wondering if anyone has experience in their daughter getting their period before their older sister?My middle child is 10 and I think might be getting her period (very dark brown discharge). She has the definite start of boobs and pubic hair but not much. Her older sister is 13 and is much more developed in both areas but no sign of period. I’m an only child and was 11 when I got mine. Should I worry about my oldest or just leave it? I wouldn’t worry about your oldest except if she’s worried. She might feel a bit left out or left behind in which case some reassurance or special time with you might be a good idea, but 13 or older is well within the realms of normal. 10 is also normal though the younger end and I’d be more worried about helping her cope with the logistical side etc. In which case- the Bonds period undies are great, as are Thinx and Toms. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VeritasVinumArte Posted December 27, 2020 Share Posted December 27, 2020 https://raisingchildren.net.au/pre-teens/development/periods-hygiene/periods“When periods startMost girls will have their first period when they’re between 11 and 14½, but anywhere from 9-16 years is considered normal. If a girl has a major growth spurt and has grown some underarm hair, periods are likely to be just around the corner.If your child hasn’t started her period by the time she turns 16, it’s a good idea to talk with your child’s GP. There can be lots of reasons why periods haven’t started by then, and medical assessment can rule out any serious problems.”At 13 I would not be concerned about periods not starting yet. I would think 12/13 for them to start would be more average. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ceeshell Posted December 28, 2020 Author Share Posted December 28, 2020 Thanks everyone. I should have mentioned that the 10 year old is turning 11 in January. My eldest is naturally extremely thin. This could have something to do with it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenflea Posted December 29, 2020 Share Posted December 29, 2020 I asked my gyno about this a few months ago and she said body fat has a fair bit to do with it. It's partly why gymnasts and dancers with little to no body fat either don't menstruate or start later. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenflea Posted December 29, 2020 Share Posted December 29, 2020 DD is 10 and only has a bit of pubic hair, but her friend who is 6 months younger started her periods a few months ago Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scootaloo Posted December 30, 2020 Share Posted December 30, 2020 My girls are 2 1/2 years apart and both started their period this year about a month apart. So, you might be lucky like me and get a 2 at once deal. Now I get them both being hormonal at the same time Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
barrington Posted December 30, 2020 Share Posted December 30, 2020 I asked my gyno about this a few months ago and she said body fat has a fair bit to do with it. It's partly why gymnasts and dancers with little to no body fat either don't menstruate or start later.Isn't the magic weight around 43kgs?DD14 is a dancer, around 41kgs. No period yet. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenflea Posted December 30, 2020 Share Posted December 30, 2020 I heard 45 or so, DD is 24 kg!! She'll be fine for years at this rate! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie28 Posted December 30, 2020 Share Posted December 30, 2020 I heard 45 or so, DD is 24 kg!! She'll be fine for years at this rate! Yikes I didn’t weight 45kgs until I was 17! I got my period at 13 though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 30, 2020 Share Posted December 30, 2020 24kg at 13 is very slender OP. My son is 10 and is on the 10th centile at around that weight.Is it worth a general checkup to make sure she’s doing well generally, nothing to do with periods?I had undiagnosed coeliac in my teens and twenties. I was managing ‘ok’ but I was not well. I can tell the difference now. I couldn’t as a youngster - I didn’t know what I was missing. I own my bias - and I’m not suggesting she has coeliac - just wondering if you’re certain there’s nothing else going on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenflea Posted December 30, 2020 Share Posted December 30, 2020 [mention]SplashingRainbows[/mention] if it's my DD you're thinking of, she's 10 at 24kg and while technically she's underweight, genetics have a LOT to do with that. She's also short and comes from a family of short people on both sides, and her dad (and my mother in law)are all skinny. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blizzy Posted December 31, 2020 Share Posted December 31, 2020 I asked my gyno about this a few months ago and she said body fat has a fair bit to do with it. It's partly why gymnasts and dancers with little to no body fat either don't menstruate or start later.Isn't the magic weight around 43kgs?DD14 is a dancer, around 41kgs. No period yet. My DD is 58kg, no period yet Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kerilyntaryn21 Posted December 31, 2020 Share Posted December 31, 2020 My daughter was less than 45 kg when she started at age 9 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 2, 2021 Share Posted January 2, 2021 @SplashingRainbows if it's my DD you're thinking of, she's 10 at 24kg and while technically she's underweight, genetics have a LOT to do with that. She's also short and comes from a family of short people on both sides, and her dad (and my mother in law)are all skinny. May have got the daughters mixed up? Sorry I thought you were referencing your older daughter. 24kg at age 10 I do understand (have one myself!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ker Posted January 11, 2021 Share Posted January 11, 2021 My daughter was 9. I was 15. I was very thin at school though (5'6" and 42kg when I finished year 12) so I assumed my size had something to do with it. My DD is small as well though (although she's 42kg atm and only 5' tall).I wouldn't worry about either. I mentioned DD's age to a paed gynae and she said females seem to be starting earlier and she said she would have been more worried about me not starting till 15! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prancer Posted January 11, 2021 Share Posted January 11, 2021 I asked my gyno about this a few months ago and she said body fat has a fair bit to do with it. It's partly why gymnasts and dancers with little to no body fat either don't menstruate or start later.Isn't the magic weight around 43kgs?DD14 is a dancer, around 41kgs. No period yet. My DD is 58kg, no period yet I think the weight thing is a furphy too. DD was extremely tall and 55kg when she got hers, the month she turned 13. She is fairly sporty. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STBG 2 Posted January 11, 2021 Share Posted January 11, 2021 I had 4 girls, all very close in age, their weights did not seem to affect the onset of menstruation. None of them were over weight but the 2 smaller ones definitely got their first period earlier than the 2 slightly bigger ones.You do need some fat to store oestrogen so very thin, muscular athletic girls will often have delayed periods. My thinner girls were just regular non athletes.Ultimately I think genetics is as important as anything else. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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